Call An Autistic!

Me: okay, got a lot to do today Me: Glad I planned ahead and actually made breakfast last night! Me: Now I can just sit down and eat, no prep needed. Me: And of course nothing goes better with a cup of overnight oats than my drug of choice: the advice columns! Me: Always nice

Feeling Hawkish

Me: (jogging Sunday morning) Me: (almost home) Me: (can’t wait for breakfast) Me: (pancakes pancakes pancakes) Me: (aw yeah) Me: (and they’re that overnight-oat kind) Me: (so they’re practically already made) Me: (I just have to get home and fry those bad boys) Me: (hungry hungry want them pancakes) Me: …hang on what’s this now?

We’re Mules, Not Horses

Me: (notices that several recent posts have been about animals, either literally or metaphorically) Me: (has zero problems with this) I mentioned in a previous post that I’ve been hearing a bit about autistic burnout. It’s been hard to find more than anecdotal information about it, because there aren’t any big studies or even that

Nutty Crows

The day before the first day Me (texting): hey listen as long as you’re picking up crickets can you check out how expensive dry dog food is? I read that crows sometimes like kibble if it isn’t too big. Spouse: Sure. Spouse (ten minutes later): The clerk recommended a kind that’s only $6.50 a bag.

Leaning in or burning out?

“Hold that thought,” I said to my spouse. He was in the middle of a sentence, and I felt bad about cutting him off. But it would only be for a few seconds. And we were chatting rather than talking about something emotionally urgent. If this had been a serious discussion, I would have quite

Rye Crows

As I mentioned in a previous post, Monday is “details” day. So instead of posting about autism, aphantasia, or other neurodivergent news, I’m going to chat about something I’m passionate about. One of my special interests is birds. I don’t have a house or a yard, but I’m lucky enough to have an apartment with

The Bitter Autistic Wish List

1. When someone tells you they’re autistic, just nod. A friendly smile is nice, if you can manage it. 2. If you have a personal positive experience with autism that can be expressed in a single sentence – go for it. “Oh, great – so’s my sister” works. So does, “Oh, hey – I just

Masks Protect Us

Several months ago, BuzzFeed News ran a story about a woman who won the kind of contest no one even wants to place in: worst tattoo ever. It makes sense that such a tattoo would involve words rather than art. Plenty of people have rued the day they got someone else’s name inked on them.

The Hermit

Just checking in and sorry to have been gone so long. Half of my absence was due to being the kind of busy I have mixed feelings about – more about that soon. The other half was thanks to a pleasant sort of busyness I felt was closer to the French word for busy: occupé. I

Coffee, tea, or empathy?

Someday, when it’s safe for all involved, I will be able to visit my lovely father-in-law and his lovely wife again.  And when I do, I will bring my coffee kettle, the coffee scale and beautiful glass Chemex coffee-pour-over jug my kiddo got me for Christmas, the coffee grinder my kiddo recommended I get, and