We’re Mules, Not Horses

Me: (notices that several recent posts have been about animals, either literally or metaphorically) Me: (has zero problems with this) I mentioned in a previous post that I’ve been hearing a bit about autistic burnout. It’s been hard to find more than anecdotal information about it, because there aren’t any big studies or even thatContinue reading “We’re Mules, Not Horses”

Leaning in or burning out?

“Hold that thought,” I said to my spouse. He was in the middle of a sentence, and I felt bad about cutting him off. But it would only be for a few seconds. And we were chatting rather than talking about something emotionally urgent. If this had been a serious discussion, I would have quiteContinue reading “Leaning in or burning out?”

Coffee, tea, or empathy?

Someday, when it’s safe for all involved, I will be able to visit my lovely father-in-law and his lovely wife again.  And when I do, I will bring my coffee kettle, the coffee scale and beautiful glass Chemex coffee-pour-over jug my kiddo got me for Christmas, the coffee grinder my kiddo recommended I get, andContinue reading “Coffee, tea, or empathy?”

Aphantasia: A Bitter List

1. Having aphantasia means you lack the ability to visualize. That’s it. That’s all it means. 2. What is up with that phrasing, by the way? We don’t say that people who lack the ability to see “have blindness.” I know several people who don’t have full use of their sense of hearing, but notContinue reading “Aphantasia: A Bitter List”